Embodied coaching helps you to land in your Being experientially, and from there to tune and to hone your sense of that in order to have it as a compass for how you experience and live your life. That might sound obscure or woo-woo consciousness-speak, but really it’s very simple and effective for getting us out of our ruts and into the lives we want to live.
Our culture is very mental. Nearly all of our cultural conditioning has to do with thinking about ourselves, our lives, and our world as concepts. Thinking makes for a very good tool when it doesn’t try to turn everything into a concept, so this work isn’t about some spiritual idea of dropping all thoughts. But rather, about getting better acquainted with our experiential selves in a world that tends to significantly undervalue this potent aspect of self.
WHAT IS THE REALIZATION PROCESS?
The Realization Process is a series of practices for opening the body, heart and awareness. For those who know me through my Rolfing work, I was attracted to Realization Process because it was related to the process of Rolfing to me- but instead of unwinding tissue from the outside in via my hands, with RP people could learn how to make contact with the interior of their bodies, and to find where they were either contracted or vacated, and heal that from the inside out.
This approach to embodiment is both subtle and powerful- helping us to heal in a bottom-up way from habitual holding patterns that we adopted for a myriad of reasons. It is directly useful for many things including chronic pain and tension patterns, chronic mental patterns that cause suffering, nervous system regulation, and shifting your state of being (state of consciousness/how you view yourself and the world).
*If you want to hear more about The Realization Process, here is a link to a recent interview I did with the founder and my teacher, Judith Blackstone.
WHY DO YOU CALL THEM “EMBODIED COACHING” SESSIONS?
I’m picky about words because they are pointers that can easily go awry. Put simply:
Embodied: The integrated deeply felt and known experience of how we inhabit ourselves and the world.
Coaching: Coaching associates this work with a field of practice that helps people to understand sessions are therapeutic but not therapy, and more related to this exact present moment in one's life and how to meet that.
WHAT HAPPENS IN A SESSION?
Sessions usually involve a combination of guided somatic (body/sensation based) meditation and embodiment (interoception/exteroception) work and inquiry to address whatever is most pressing in your life right now. This winds up being a combination of The Realization Process and inquiry work.
The inquiry work itself is not mental in nature (though occasionally it is useful to inquire about whether or not a thought is true), but rather about dropping into your Being in order to discern from and listen to a deeper place. This is the skillful work of learning how to feel and follow your internal compass. For most of us, that compass has been covered over by many (ahem), many, many layers of conditioning; Ideas of who we are supposed to be, how we are supposed to act, and what the world out there is all about. Not to mention confusion in our nervous systems in a pretty overstimulating world. These layers cause us our suffering, and we do the work to tenderly unbind them together.
WHAT AND WHO ARE THESE SESSIONS USEFUL FOR?
People seek out these sessions for all the normal human reasons for seeking out support in your life. So whether that is discerning a career change, a relationship issue, or getting out of The Rut. If you’re working to resolve physical issues like chronic pain and tension patterns, Realization Process work is also very useful for that.
This work can also be very effective for those who identify as highly sensitive or highly empathic, and who feel overwhelmed and/or fatigued by the world because of the amount of energy or “other people’s stuff” that they pick up on.
Many other people describe their motivations to seek these sessions out as being tired of the self-improvement game, tired of trying to empty the metaphorical bucket of their psychological history, and tired of spiritual paths that make them feel like constant placidness or always-emptiness is the only acceptable option. In short, they are tired of energetically moving in the world in a way that feels like a dog chasing its tail. Or a dog suppressing its tail, whatever that looks like.
WHAT IS YOUR TRAINING TO DO THIS WORK?
I trained with Judith Blackstone and received my certification in The Realization Process Spiritual Psychotherapy, now titled the Healing Ground Certification.
In addition to that specific training, I have had the great good fortune to sit with and learn from a number of other teachers whose work and has had a large impact on me.
HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FROM THERAPY?
The first thing that is important to say is that I am not a therapist (even though the certification training I did with Judith Blackstone has the word “psychotherapy” in it).
Therapy happens with therapists who are trained and licensed to help people to understand how their psychological patterns and experiences might be shaping how they feel or behave in the present tense. In general therapy is about helping people to heal from the past, while coaching is more related to getting to wish you where to be next. Within the context of embodied coaching, which is very present-tense focused, this is through getting better in touch with one's experiential, embodied self, which is different from their cognitive understanding of themselves.
*It is important to mention that therapy has been (and continues to be) important and useful in my own life and in the lives of many others, so this is not my way of dismissing therapy, but rather of differentiating how this work is not therapy. And if I feel a client would be better served with a licensed therapist and working in that model, I will refer them to one.
HOW DO WE MEET?
Sessions happen via Zoom. If you prefer a landline, I can provide a conference call number.
I work with clients all over so if you are not in my time zone (EST/New York time), we can initially do some timezone sorting.
HOW FREQUENTLY DO WE MEET?
Most people work with me anywhere in the range of once a week, to once every 3 weeks. This tends to keep wind at our backs relationally, while still allowing time for integrating and exploring in your daily life.
At the moment I am not taking on new clients for coaching, but you can use the form below to be added to the wait list. If you are a current client of mine and are looking for the online booking form,that’s here.
I am currently in training as a financial counselor with The Financial Recovery Institute. So much of my work in my own life and with clients comes back to money. Often, when things are out of alignment for us, it shows up in our financial lives. And while "stick to your budget" seems like great practical advice, our patterns with money are almost always more complicated and more born of our psychological history and familial and cultural patterns than that. I chose to train with The Financial Recovery Institute because of their deeply humane approach to this which tackles the issue on the practical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological levels. I look forward to offering this work and helping more and more people come out of "money comas".
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